diff --git a/src/discord.c b/src/discord.c
index 068c2404d..e69b3abf4 100644
--- a/src/discord.c
+++ b/src/discord.c
@@ -276,6 +276,7 @@ static void DRPC_HandleJoinRequest(const DiscordUser *requestUser)
 	else
 	{
 		discordRequestList = newRequest;
+		M_RefreshPauseMenu();
 	}
 
 	// Made it to the end, request was valid, so play the request sound :)
diff --git a/src/m_menu.c b/src/m_menu.c
index 2c8f66fe9..1979e30a8 100644
--- a/src/m_menu.c
+++ b/src/m_menu.c
@@ -3348,10 +3348,8 @@ void M_StartControlPanel(void)
 				MPauseMenu[i].alphaKey -= 8;
 
 			MPauseMenu[mpause_discordrequests].alphaKey = MPauseMenu[i].alphaKey;
-			MPauseMenu[mpause_discordrequests].status = IT_GRAYEDOUT;
 
-			if (discordRequestList != NULL)
-				MPauseMenu[mpause_discordrequests].status = IT_STRING | IT_SUBMENU;
+			M_RefreshPauseMenu();
 		}
 #endif
 
@@ -6370,6 +6368,20 @@ static void M_SelectableClearMenus(INT32 choice)
 	M_ClearMenus(true);
 }
 
+void M_RefreshPauseMenu(void)
+{
+#ifdef HAVE_DISCORDRPC
+	if (discordRequestList != NULL)
+	{
+		MPauseMenu[mpause_discordrequests].status = IT_STRING | IT_SUBMENU;
+	}
+	else
+	{
+		MPauseMenu[mpause_discordrequests].status = IT_GRAYEDOUT;
+	}
+#endif
+}
+
 // ======
 // CHEATS
 // ======
diff --git a/src/m_menu.h b/src/m_menu.h
index 1ad20c777..4fc92bd55 100644
--- a/src/m_menu.h
+++ b/src/m_menu.h
@@ -267,6 +267,8 @@ void Addons_option_Onchange(void);
 void M_ReplayHut(INT32 choice);
 void M_SetPlaybackMenuPointer(void);
 
+void M_RefreshPauseMenu(void);
+
 INT32 HU_GetHighlightColor(void);
 
 // These defines make it a little easier to make menus